The Importance of Being Honest | Finding the Courage to Be Myself Online

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I’m doing this blogging thing wrong.

I’m beginning to realise that I haven’t been very honest. I don’t write about anything too personal or opinionated, sometimes actively avoiding subjects I want to talk about. When I go back to make my posts and reviews “better”, to edit them and polish them up, I usually end up taking all the life out of them. There’s still personality there, sure, but it’s not authentic and it’s not always mine. I’ve always been easily influenced and I think sometimes that can get the better of me, especially when I start trying to emulate everyone else in an effort to become better.

A part of me seems to think that being more professional and polished and on top of everything will make me a better blogger – but that’s simply not true. I know from my own experience that the bloggers I follow the closest, the ones I squeal over a new post from, are the ones who are most authentically themselves. They have their own distinct voice, their own style, and they’re open and honest. They sit back and tell you about their struggles, their experiences, how their life is going lately, and I sit back and listen.

I realised that, despite creating this space, this tiny corner of the internet that is entirely mine, I don’t treat it that way. Instead of speaking like I’m in a room of friends, I talk like I’m standing in front of a school assembly. I talk more openly and honestly in the comments section of other blogs than I do right here on my own. Isn’t that ridiculous?

I think it’s time for a fresh start.

Hi! I’m Abi. I’m demisexual and gender confuses me. I struggle to keep up with regular anything, as anyone who has visited this blog before may have noticed.

I have a million different hobbies, which definitely contributes to said problem. At any given point I can be found dividing my time between: art, writing, reading, cooking, gardening, sewing, crocheting, playing video games, playing with dogs, or – most often – sat around on my phone doing nothing. (It’s a problem.)

If you want some more real-world context, I’m an appretice in Digital Marketing – a career I have no interest in doing. All of this fits around seeing my significant other Olly, a non-binary bean who is a blessing on this earth.

I get stressed easily and I’m prone to bouts of anxiety and depression. I struggle to start on new projects because I never feel I’m good enough, then when I do manage to start something I rarely see it through to the end. This blog is probably one of my longest standing projects. WordPress recently gave me a nice little reminder recently that it had been one year since I created this blog. For reference, that was in April – I didn’t publish my first post until September; just in case you were wondering just how long it takes me to start things. Leaps of faith aren’t my strong point.

Being more real is a complicated thing for me, but it starts with introducing myself properly here. It starts with learning not to erase my own thoughts and feelings. It starts with me saying the things I don’t even say in real life – because isn’t that what the internet has always been about? Finding a place you can be whoever you want to be.

If you stuck with me through all that, thank you! Here is a picture of my dog as a reward:

Dog in a field with a stick
Such a good boy! He’s called Pip 🙂

Thanks for listening to that. Do you think you’re authentic on your own blog? I’d love to chat in the comments.

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5 thoughts on “The Importance of Being Honest | Finding the Courage to Be Myself Online

  1. I love every word of this post. I can relate so much to being influenced by other voices and thinking that “better” means “more like someone else”. I always try to be authentic on my blog and I think I’ve found my voice now, but I still get that voice in my head sometimes telling me I’m trying too hard to sound a certain way or not trying hard enough, sharing too much or not sharing enough. My favorite blogs to read are the ones with distinct, honest voices too. So tanks for this little reminder that authentic is always best. And thanks for being real, it’s so beautiful ❤️

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment ❤️ It’s always hard to get away from outside influence and ignore that voice telling you everyone else is doing it better, but when you do the effects can be wonderful. I always think of your blog as being really unique, I definitely think you have your own voice. Keep doing what you’re doing, and thanks for brightening my day 😊


  2. This post made my heart warm. You wrote it so well and I loved learning more about you! Being authentic is something I’ve struggled with while blogging as well and I truly feel inspired by you sharing these pieces of yourself. You are genuinely one of my favorite bloggers, Abi! Thanks for sharing this. Also your dog is ADORABLE. ❤️

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    1. Thank you so much! ❤️ It means so much for you to say all that because you were actually one of the bloggers that inspired me to write this post! I always remember your first ever post, where you talked about Eliza and Her Monsters and were just so honest and real. Aww, I’ll be sure to tell him you said that 😊

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      1. Awwww this seriously made my day! 💞 💞💞 It’s really nice to hear you remembered and were inspired by that post… it feels like forever ago, but I remember how daunting it was to share it! Thanks so much for always being so kind and supportive😊 you’re the best!

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