Hi guys! Hope Pride month is going well for you all. Today I’m gonna talk about something I want to see more of: books with asexual rep! As someone on the ace spectrum (I’m demisexual) I think these books are super important.
But that brings me on to an awkward point: I haven’t read any of them. I want to see more of these books on the market but for that to happen more people need to be reading them – me included. I’m sharing this list in the hopes that I can introduce these stories to those who haven’t seen them, and help people who are looking for them to find the representation they need.
It’s important to me that I get this right, and I don’t want anyone to be left out. So for those who aren’t aware – asexual (ace) means experiencing no sexual attraction, aromantic (aro) means experiencing no romantic attraction, and demisexual (demi) means only experiencing attraction to people you already have a strong relationship with. All of these are usually described as coming under the ace spectrum. There are lots of different labels for people who experience little to no attraction, so this acts as a sort of umbrella term.
14 Books With Asexual and Ace-Spectrum Representation
Dare Mighty Things by Heather Kaczynski
Everything about the description of this book gives me Nevernight vibes, but sci-fi. It follows Cassandra, who’s asexual, as she competes to score a place on a mission into space. As she endures rigorous tests she begins to form an unexpected bond with the very people she’s competing against, all of whom are as determined to secure a place as she is. (See where I’m coming from with that Nevernight thing?)
Tash Hearts Tolstoy by Kathryn Ormsbee
Tash is romantic asexual. When her web series, Unhappy Families, suddenly goes viral, she finds herself struggling to deal with the pressure. Arin from Tomes of Our Lives wrote a great review of it!
Immoral Code by Lillian Clark
This sounds like a super fun story about a group of friends, one of whom is asexual/aromantic. When one of the group is denied a student loan after finding out their estranged father is a billionaire, the group hatch a plan to hack his bank account and steal enough money to put their friend through college.
The Lost Coast by Amy Rose Capetta
This is a book about small town queer witches. Do I need to say anything more? It has magic, mystery and murder, as well as queer, asexual, bisexual and non-binary representation.
All Out: The No-Longer-Secret Stories of Queer Teens Throughout the Ages edited by Saundra Mitchell
This is a collection of short stories, all written by notable queer authors, including Shaun David Hutchinson, Mackenzi Lee, Robin Talley and Anna-Marie McLemore, to name a few. It features stories about all areas of the queer spectrum, including asexual.
Radio Silence by Alice Oseman
Alice Oseman is known for her awesome rep, but when I heard this book had a demisexual side character I knew I had to read it. Also, I hear it focuses on platonic love and I think we all need more stories like that.
We Awaken by Calista Lynne
This is a magical, unique sounding book with not one but two(!) asexual characters. If ballet and magical asexual dream girls sounds like your thing then I think this book will be good for you.
Every Heart a Doorway by Seanan McGuire
Have you ever wondered what happens to the children who fall into magical worlds once they grow up? Well, this book has the answers – and an asexual protagonist. It promises magic, murder and mystery, all set in Eleanor West’s Home for Wayward Children.
Technically, You Started It by Lana Wood Johnson
Demisexual representation!!! Seeing those words feels like such a victory to me. I don’t think my awkward descriptions could do it justice so I’m just going to insert what I think is a brilliant opening description:
When a guy named Martin Nathaniel Munroe II texts you, it should be obvious who you’re talking to. Except there’s two of them (it’s a long story), and Haley thinks she’s talking to the one she doesn’t hate.
The Lady’s Guide to Petticoats and Piracy by Mackenzi Lee
I adored Felicity in The Gentleman’s Guide to Vice and Virtue (which I’ve just posted a review of!) so when I learnt she got her own sequel I was hyped. Then I found out she’s asexual aromantic and I pretty much died of happiness. Representation just fills my heart.
Daybreak Rising by Kiran Oliver
Another book with demisexual rep!! You don’t know how much I wish I could have said that more on this list. Heck, I wish I could have dedicated a whole list to it. But it feels like a start, so I present you with this story of a rebellion headed by a demisexual protagonist.
Once & Future by Amy Rose Capetta and Cori McCarthy
So from what I hear this is a queer retelling of Arthurian legend – featuring asexual and non-binary characters. It sounds funny, queer, and kind of epic.
Not Your Backup by C.B. Lee
I reeeeaaaally need to start reading this series. For starters, the covers are freaking adorable, and secondly they have amazing rep. The books follow sapphic, trans, and in this case, asexual aromantic leads. Also did I mention the covers are adorable?
Let’s Talk About Love by Claire Kann
I’ve already mentioned this book this month, but it obviously belongs on this list. It was the first book I saw where the word asexual was used on the cover and that gave me a lot of hope. It’s what inspired me to find all these other books, and is kind of the reason this list exists!
Just a little disclaimer down here: like I said, I haven’t read any of these books, so I can’t speak about the representation first hand. Some explicitly mention it in the synopsis, others I’m going off people’s reviews. So, I’m really sorry and ready to apologise if any of these are wrong.
This post took me a long time to write. It was probably the hardest I’ve worked on a blog in a while. But as something so close to my heart, I felt it was super important to get this right. My sexuality is something I struggled to define for a long time, but when I found the label demisexual it felt like finally coming home. Representation means a lot to me, especially in media that can make people feel seen, use their labels, show them they’re not alone. If I can help someone find something that makes them feel that way, that’s enough.
I know that I haven’t read any of these books myself, and it strikes me that perhaps I ought to be practicing what I preach, so to speak. I’m thrilled every time I hear a book has asexual representation, even more so when it’s demisexual, yet so far I’ve put off reading any of them. Maybe I’m scared they’ll disappoint me – if only the idea of a book exists in my head, it can remain perfect. But that’s silly. The whole joy of these books existing is getting to read them, and it’s time I took the plunge.
Have you read any books with asexual characters? Do you enjoy reading books that represent you? I’m super proud of this post and I’d love to talk to you about it in the comments.